You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to

overcome insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships. I'm your host,

relationship coach Stephanie Rigg and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On on attachment. In today's episode we

are talking all about sex and attachment and specifically how anxious and

avoidant people differ when it comes to their experience of and how they relate to sexual

intimacy. So this is a big topic. It's one that I have touched on before in the

podcast but not in recent history.

And it's one that I do receive a lot of questions and

dams about people struggling with something

to do with their sexual dynamic and wondering whether the attachment dynamics

between them and their partner have anything to do with it.

And as I always say, I think if attachment styles determine how we experience and relate to intimacy, then I think when you look at it in that way, of course that's going to affect how we relate to an experienced sex because sexual intimacy for a lot of us is pretty high up in terms of

vulnerability and intimacy.

And so of course if our attachment wounds are triggered by vulnerability and intimacy in our

relationships then of course sex is going to bring us into contact with those

things in maybe a really accentuated way and so as we're going to talk about today, a lot of the dynamics

and strategies that we'll see in other aspects of relationships are very much

front and center and if anything can be even more pronounced and acute when it comes

to the sexual relationship and I think that can be really exacerbated that a stress that we feel and

the sense of shame and brokenness can be exacerbated by the fact that there is so much shame around sex to begin with and we don't talk about it very much.

So I think in my experience when when people are struggling sexually, there tends to be much more of an inclination

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