You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we're talking about three things that you'll notice when you enter your

first healthy relationships.

So this is one for those of you who have maybe been in a string of not so healthy relationships

where you've had a lot of dysfunctional patterns, maybe high conflict, a lot of insecurity. And as you do this work

of becoming more secure within yourself and building self-awareness around your own patterns,

learning tools to build healthier relationships and more secure relationships, which is what

we're hopefully all aiming for here. And then you enter a new relationship.

You'll probably notice a new set of challenges or encounter things that you maybe didn't

expect to.

I think a lot of us have the misconception that we'll do this work and then we'll enter

a healthy relationship with a secure

partner and all of that stuff will be behind us. We'll never have to, you know, come up against

those relational challenges again. When really the truth is that we are confronted with

different challenges and hopefully we are meeting those challenges with the benefit of our enhanced capacity

and new tools and so we're able to alchemize whatever those challenges are with a greater level

of maturity but nevertheless I think a lot of people are surprised and maybe caught off guard by

the fact that secure relationships can bring up different

things and can hold a mirror up to us in different ways. And so I'm going to be sharing today

three things that you might notice in your first healthy relationship. And even as I'm talking

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