We can accept people for who they are without welcoming them inside.

We are taught as we grow up to be affable, to be friendly and to, you know, in general

term, speaking to just sort of connect with people as much as we can.

And that's not really a bad thing.

Of course, you know, connecting with other people is important.

It's good and it's healthy and it's part of what makes us happy.

We also of course learn so much from speaking with other people we gain different perspectives.

We learn insights about the world and make connections and all that type of thing.

And that is wonderful.

However, you know, particularly I think through adolescence, one thing that gets trained

into us is a feeling of scarcity in some ways.

You know, because as we move through adolescence into adulthood, there's a lot of pressure to

like force friends, like you have to have a group of friends.

You have to be kind of in with this person, that person.

And if you don't have this group of friends, you feel sort of alone and you feel isolated

and, you know, in that time of life, whenever you're looking to build your confidence and

to discover who you are, of course, you're really, it's very challenging and very difficult

if you're doing that alone or particularly if, you know, other groups of people aren't

accepting you because then you're feeling rejection and that type of stuff and it just

makes everything 10 times worse.

And so because of that, you know, this moving into out of adolescence into adulthood, period,

it gets very deeply ingrained into us to shift our energy to please other people, you

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