When we talk about boundaries, we're not saying, here's how you keep yourself in a bubble and away from anything that could ever hurt you.

If we overprotect something, it loops around and now we're not protecting it at all. It's fragile and anything can break it.

Boundaries are not things that are intended to keep us safe forever and never experience anything harsh in the world because that's really not possible.

It's, are you making sure that if something hurts you, it's not devastating you to a point

where you can't move on. Boundaries are there to give us clues as to when something's encroaching.

Hey, welcome back to the Personality Hacker podcast. My name is Joe Mark Witt. And I'm Antonio, Dodge. So, Antonio, I want to talk about boundaries this week. Boundaries is a big issue. Sometimes in our personal life path mentorship, people get really angry. And every time somebody gets anger, I'm like, that's a boundary issue. Not always, but often anger tells us we have boundary crosses. We have a lot of people, I think, that have a lot of questions about setting good and proper boundaries. Some people set boundaries too rigidly. They keep people out. They kind of block you a lot. I don't know if you're like this or not. Maybe as you're listening, you're one of these people that's a little too rigid with your boundaries. You have too many up. Other people

have no boundaries at all. They let people just walk all over them or come right in their life or, you know, they don't have a sense of themselves. They just let everybody take what they want. They don't have any sense of boundaries around their life. So, and there's rest of us kind of in the middle somewhere, I think. Yeah. So I would love to know if you're listening or watching right now, right as we start out, where do you place yourself on the boundary framework? Are you a person that you think you've got really good boundaries in life? Do you think you've set up boundaries that are appropriate for you? Do you think you have weak boundaries and people tend to take too much and tread on your, you know, tread on your sovereignty? Or do you have really rigid boundaries? And maybe no one gets in.

You're impenetrable. You have no, maybe no friends. I don't know. But you probably have people

to get along with that you just have really rigid boundaries. Maybe you've learned over time.

I'd love to hear in the comments, whatever platform you're on, leave a comment. Where are your

boundary set currently in your life? I suspect that boundary setting is one of the best

gifts that we can give to ourselves. Yeah. And I think we should start with a good working definition

of what boundaries are. Yes. So a boundary is basically anything that's yours to manage and creating a distinction between what's yours, what's your

responsibility, what are the things that are yours to, you know, to figure out, and anything

that isn't. So it's creating a distinction between what's mine and what is everybody else's.

The word domain comes to mind for me. Would you say that we could say that's my domain? Like it's my area that I feel, because it's maybe not responsibility, but it's definitely territory of some sort. Yeah. Yeah. Well, it's, well, you're protecting something. Yeah. Right. And responsibilities are something that you should also protect. Of course. But, but yes, I don't think it's just responsibilities. It's like, what is mine to protect and what isn't? And so when somebody encroaches on something that is yours to protect, then if we have good boundaries, we'll acknowledge that even if the person doesn't have bad intent and even if they're not trying to

hurt something, this is our sanctum, right? They've entered an inner sanctum. And it's our job

to make sure that we communicate in whatever way that we need to, that you've now officially

walked onto inner sanctum turf. You've walked into a turf that's mine to protect.

So I'm going to be very careful about who I'm going to let in there and not let in.

And so boundary setting is, it's basically who, like who we are and how we're going to keep

other people from encroaching on that space.

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