So in the 10 years I've been empowered to teach.

I've been lucky.

I've been lucky and fortunate enough to work one on one with now hundreds of people over that period.

And one of the themes I've noticed

over the years is that a lot of the interpersonal relationship

struggles that we can get ourselves into in life are based on what I'll call an over-reliance on intuition or gut feelings. reliance on

setting good on setting good boundaries.

So I'm only going to talk for a moment about the debt feelings or intuition part.

I've given so many talks on debt feelings.

If you'd like to go to the podcast and'll hear, if you look out feelings or intuitions or any of that, you'll find the talks.

In short, intuition was... Intuition, what some clinicians call rapid cognition, gut feelings, the kind of sense that you get

about people.

It's built up over past experience.

There are many positive roles for intuition. It's extremely helpful in one's work.

So if you've developed a lot of experience in some form of skill, any job or something like that.

You work as, you know, I don't know,

interior designer or a painter or you work in something where you have to make a lot of decisions,

trusting your gut is very very useful because over the years of trial and error

gut feelings become a form of shorthand that are extremely useful.

Unfortunately, a lot of our relational experience with other people is set by really negative experiences as well as positive.

We can have both secure and insecure caretaking as children we can experience all kinds of

interpersonal events in early school life and those experiences will shape our gut reactions and feelings.

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