SelfWork You Get the Gist (YGTG): Why Exactly Did I Write A Book?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2021
⏱️ 7 minutes
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Summary
Writing a book is the hardest and most labor-intensive task I've ever accomplished. And sometimes, while I was deep in the throws of its creation, I would wonder why I was doing it, even though I was so passionate about its message. What did I really hope would happen as a result? Well, two things have happened this week that remind me of why the topic of perfectly hidden depression is vital for our mental health culture- and you - to understand. The first was from a conversation I had with psychologist Lindsay Weisner, who was interviewing me and was reading Perfectly Hidden Depression. The second was an email from a middle-aged man who was shocked at his own identification with PHD - and what that realization was leading him to do.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford and this is another you got |
| 0:11.2 | the gist as we like to call it. Why GTG? You know sometimes as an author you question |
| 0:18.5 | whether or not your book is even important. Is it meaning anything to anybody? Is it |
| 0:22.5 | doing any good? And certainly after having written perfectly hidden depression I've had |
| 0:28.5 | days or weeks or not a month because it usually doesn't last that long. But when I've |
| 0:33.2 | questioned was it really worth all the effort? I know the message is vital. I know the message |
| 0:38.4 | can save lives because it gives people a way of identifying something that they have |
| 0:44.1 | known is wrong in their gut but they've never had a word for it. And yet this week I've |
| 0:48.8 | had two things happen that have reminded me of the importance of the message of perfectly |
| 0:54.1 | hidden depression and really warmed my heart. Just yesterday I had a psychologist interview |
| 1:00.1 | me. Her name is Lindsay Weissner and she laughed and said I read your book just yesterday |
| 1:05.9 | but I read it. She had seen a patient right before she interviewed me and she asked her if |
| 1:11.9 | they were suicidal which is a typical question for a therapist to ask and they said oh no. |
| 1:17.6 | But because she'd read my book she then asked would you tell anyone if you were suicidal? |
| 1:24.3 | The patient looks surprised but said tenuously well, probably not. This led to the very |
| 1:30.0 | discussion I'd hoped for when I wrote the book. Then she said the therapist said so tell |
| 1:35.4 | me why you wouldn't reveal. When she told me what had happened I had goose bumps. That's |
| 1:41.9 | so why I wrote the book. Because I want mental health professionals and all of you to understand |
| 1:48.1 | we have to start asking the right questions and telling the story that not all that appears |
| 1:53.4 | to be okay is truly okay we've got to dig deeper than that. That was yesterday but this morning |
| 2:00.8 | I received this email that I wanted to share with you because I bet many of you will see |
| 2:06.5 | yourself in this email. He at first expressed his gratitude for my work and then he said |
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