SelfWork YGTG (You Get the Gist); What's Emotional Bandwidth
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 9 December 2020
⏱️ 4 minutes
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Summary
YGTG is five minutes of jam-packed info about one concept or idea or behavior - and today it's about emotional bandwidth. People are using the term emotional bandwidth to reveal that they can't tolerate certain emotions or discussions. It's a short cut way of saying, "I can't be there for you right now." But when does it become an almost too impersonal or detached way of absolving yourself from a commitment? It may make something seem almost like a technical glitch rather than a personal choice to withdraw from a commitment that would take emotional maturity and growth. Or rather than the more vulnerable, “I don’t think I can learn how to be the person I thought I could be.”
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to this five minute you get the gist |
| 0:06.4 | Hello, known around here is YG TG. |
| 0:13.2 | Five minutes jammed with info in a quick recommendation or two to think about. |
| 0:17.2 | I'm Dr Margaret and I'm so glad you're here on self-work YG-T-G. |
| 0:25.0 | I've recently been hearing more and more of the term emotional bandwidth. |
| 0:29.7 | Sure enough, if you look at its definition, it's there in black and white. Maybe it's |
| 0:34.1 | been around a lot longer than I recognized like the term silo was when it was |
| 0:38.6 | peppering the conversations of corporate folks I worked with. But here's the definition in the electronics world of |
| 0:45.1 | emotional bandwidth. A range of frequencies within a given band in particular |
| 0:49.4 | that used for transmitting a signal, but right there also is the energy or |
| 0:54.8 | mental capacity required to deal with the situation, such as he lives alone and |
| 0:59.7 | says he doesn't have the bandwidth to handle a steady relationship. |
| 1:03.4 | So what is emotional bandwidth? |
| 1:05.6 | It's having the ability to hear anymore, tolerate anymore, have space anymore for emotional |
| 1:10.8 | interaction. |
| 1:12.2 | And I get it. It's kind of like having language with |
| 1:15.0 | friends or your partners of even your family to say, hold up. You seem to need me to |
| 1:19.3 | be there for you and I want to be. I want to listen and give give support but I'm not there right now. |
| 1:24.0 | Give me an hour or two to finish this up and let's talk then. |
| 1:27.0 | Now that's a lot of words if you could just say hey I don't have the emotional bandwidth |
| 1:32.1 | right now. I think it have the emotional bandwidth right now. |
| 1:32.8 | I think it's a shortcut in a way. |
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