207 SelfWork: How to Break Away from Emotional Paralysis
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 4 December 2020
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Challenging your assumptions can lead to remarkable change – and can break emotional paralysis. On SelfWork today, sponsored by BetterHelp, we're going to talk about doing the dishes. Yes you heard me – dishes. One of my FB closed group members very aptly posted the story you're about to hear as a way of coping with the stress of the pandemic – to look at your own life through a different lens and see how you could manage your struggles differently – by challenging your own rules/assumptions. When you do, it can bring huge relief, and a tremendous jumpstart to your hope for change – and change that lasts. It's called "second-order change" in psychology and it can be very powerful.
Our listener email today is from a woman who’s writing about being dominated both at home and at work – I’ll let you listen to her email and see what you think. I was struck by a couple of things – and hope to offer ideas that will be helpful.
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Second order change Quote and Explanation
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. This is Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical |
| 0:34.0 | psychologist. I live in Fayetteville, Arkansas and I'm so glad you're here with me |
| 0:38.9 | today. I started self-work about four years ago to try to address the stigma that still exists |
| 0:45.9 | about mental health treatment. |
| 0:47.7 | I wanted you to be able to hear what a psychologist might have to say. |
| 0:51.6 | Maybe you're someone who's quite comfortable with psychological |
| 0:54.1 | and emotional issues, maybe you're already in therapy, maybe you've just been diagnosed |
| 0:58.0 | with something and you're asking a lot of questions. Or maybe there's a third group, |
| 1:02.4 | you're someone who maybe even has said I'll never dark on the door of a therapist but you're |
| 1:07.8 | just curious enough to listen to a podcast like self-work so welcome to all of you. I heard something this week that led to |
| 1:15.1 | this particular episode. It was an example of a therapist recommendation to one of |
| 1:20.0 | their patients that led them to a remarkable change an entire shift of |
| 1:24.2 | perspective and I think it happens to be hilarious because on the surface it's about |
| 1:28.9 | dishes yes you heard me dishes in the sink. |
| 1:33.2 | The story's actually been around for a while, at least two years. |
| 1:35.9 | It was originally posted at Quara by a woman named Kate Scott. |
| 1:40.6 | I tried to find her the only thing I could find about her. She's an administrative |
| 1:44.4 | assistant somewhere. But gosh I was so glad that she decided to write about this. |
| 1:50.7 | The title of her article is Run the Dishwasher twice. |
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