Hello and welcome to Self-Work. This is Dr. Margaret Rutherford, and today we've got

another YGTG. It's about covert narcissism. In fact, we're going to talk about several

different kinds of narcissism. Let's start first with the major features of a

narcissist, therefore of them, a constant need for admiration, an unrealistic sense of

self-importance, lack of empathy, and difficulty forming meaningful relationships. So this is

true for all four types of narcissism we're going to touch on today. Narcissistic folks don't

have self-esteem. If you have self-esteem, then you don't have to feel important. Again,

there's that self-importance. Maybe this example would be helpful. I was riding in a shared

taxi several years back after a huge blogging conference, and the driver and two other bloggers

who were strangers to me were discussing family conflict and what to do about it. I was

kind of quiet. I was tired. I thought they all made sense, and I hadn't been asked. Finally,

someone asked me who I was and what I did. I told them, and they all immediately said,

oh, we feel silly. We had a real therapist in the car. I stopped them, and said I enjoyed

their conversation and learned from it, just because I had three letters after my name

didn't mail that much. I hope that means I have decent self-esteem. I didn't need

to feel self-important. I didn't need to jump in and put in my two cents. Self-important

people can't help but do that. At first, I was going to do this episode about two types

of narcissism. There's covert or introverted narcissism, and then there's extroverted

or overt narcissism. But when I looked further, the latest research indicates, again, as

I've said, that there may be four different types, in fact, darling Lancer, who's a lawyer

and a mental health clinician, describes these four in a very well-written psych central

article, which you'll have the link to. There's first, the grandiose narcissist. This

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