SelfWork 159: When It's Over -- Healing Rejection and Replacement
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 13 December 2019
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Coping with rejection in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or partnership or a marriage, can be very difficult. But to add to the hurt, you can also learn that your ex has moved on quickly -- or perhaps had moved on while still in a relationship with you. And that can lead to a feeling of being replaced. We'll talk about the feelings and thoughts this can create -- and something that can help you move through this grieving process. It's called redefinition or reinterpretation -- and although it takes time to heal, this idea will help you move through feeling rejected into a better and more healthy life.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:30.0 | Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work. |
| 0:33.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:34.6 | I'm a clinical psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas. |
| 0:37.5 | I've been in practice for over 25 years. |
| 0:40.4 | And I started self-work to reach people |
| 0:42.3 | who are very interested in psychotherapy and |
| 0:45.1 | psychological issues. |
| 0:46.6 | To those of you who might have just been initially diagnosed and are looking for answers, |
| 0:52.4 | and even to those of you who might not |
| 0:54.2 | darken the door of a therapist but want to know more and might just be curious |
| 0:59.0 | enough to listen to this podcast so welcome to all of you. |
| 1:02.3 | Before we get started I want to thank all of |
| 1:05.1 | you who are leaving reviews on iTunes or now for my book Perfectly Hidden Depression |
| 1:10.0 | on Amazon. Your words and you are my best publicity. I'm extremely |
| 1:15.8 | extremely grateful. Here's one from Cassandra that I was so |
| 1:20.0 | appreciative of. This is on Amazon. I came across Dr. M and her podcast on the |
| 1:24.7 | subject again perfectly in depression some time ago and found them enormously |
| 1:28.8 | helpful and of great comfort. To at long last make some sense of my life. The book encapsulates the concept in easy |
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