Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliati. So my question to you today is, is there a person in your life, whether it be family, friend,

coworker, partner, whoever is

treating you badly in some way that not only makes you feel bad, but makes you feel bad about

yourself?

Because that's kind of where I go with emotional abuse and manipulation and any type of

controlling behavior.

When there's control to the level that they want you to feel bad about yourself,

I call that abusive.

Because what they're doing is taking away your self-worth.

They are doing their best, at least, to take away your self-worth and your self-esteem

and your self-confidence, trust in yourself, your power.

Everything that I just described are components of your power.

When you want to do something in the world, when you want to take action in the world,

your power is your self-esteem, your confidence, even your ego.

When you have a healthy, nurtured ego, not an over-inflated narcissistic ego, but a healthy

nurtured one where you feel pretty damn good about yourself and it's okay.

When you have the self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-trust, when you have all these

self-dash-whatevers that are positive about you, you have your power.

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