Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Do you absolutely deserve to be treated with respect and kindness? Don't let anyone ever make you think otherwise.

In today's episode, I want to share with you how you can recognize emotional abuse

when you can't recognize emotional abuse.

In other words, emotional abuse is one of those insidious compounding day after day behaviors

that you may not see in the moment.

It takes a bigger context, a zoomed out perspective of the relationship that you're in,

whether it's romantic, family, friends, coworkers, or whatever, that you can look at it from

afar and see all the days combined

and all the behaviors combined that give you the big picture of what's really going on.

The reason I say that is because when someone is being emotionally abusive in a subtle way

and somebody else witnesses that, they're not going to see it as

emotional abuse whereas if you're being exposed to it day after day after day you're going to

feel it but you still may not be able to identify it and the feeling part is what I really

want to focus on today.

Because if you can't identify the behaviors of emotional abuse,

then at least start getting used to how you feel when you're in communication with someone

that the conversation makes you feel negative in some way.

Because when you get in touch with

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