Today's sex chat quickie comes from friend of the podcast, Julie Seibert.

Hi, I'm Julie Seibert with intimacy and marriage.com. My quickie tip today is all about self-touch

during lovemaking. I know that for some wives, the whole idea of self-touch is a touchy topic

to say the least. I say, though,

that context means everything. I want to encourage you to embrace a perspective that can not only

strengthen your connection to your husband, but also your own orgasmic pleasure. First,

let's talk about the reality that many wives struggle reaching orgasm during intercourse and maybe even during

oral sex. Maybe you can get close, but not quite over the edge into amazing orgasmic release.

Using your fingers to stimulate your clitoris as part of foreplay or while your husband is thrusting

within you or even after he has climaxed, but you haven't quite

gotten there yet, can lead to an incredible orgasm for you. As a wife, your orgasm matters. So

figuring out what it takes to get you there within the loving exclusivity of your marriage is really

important. And self-touch doesn't have to be limited to your clitoris, sometimes

stimulating your nipples with your fingertips, while you and your husband make love can also

boost your arousal. If you think your husband might feel self-conscious about you sexually

touching yourself, talk to him about it. Which brings me to my second point. You self-pleasureing

yourself can be incredibly arousing for him.

This is really about building the healthy vulnerability to feel uninhibited enough to lean into

pleasure, to explore it fully with the person you love.

Once you incorporate some self-touch into your lovemaking, I think you'll see this

touchy topic in a whole new light.

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