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is established or largely deeply influenced by of course events of infancy in early childhood.

We are species like all mammals where early events having an inordinate influence on subsequent adult behavioral patterns.

The brain is experience-expectant,

which means there's a certain age

in all mammals where we learn a lot about ourselves what to expect from others in the world.

Unfortunately for us humans it doesn't happen at say 25, although I know 25 year olds that it wouldn't be good if that was the

age either, but it is actually very early on in life that the brain expects to learn from

human beings what we will get. And that's generally in all attachment research, clinical research, longitudinal studies

has been established to be between roughly nine months of age, yikes and two years.

That period is where the brain expects to learn

about how other people will treat us.

That doesn't mean that events and the rest of childhood

are not also deeply influential as they are.

But there's an inordinate influence of that period.

So babies are extremely reactive to attention ruptures.

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