Self-Hatred, Therapist Abandonment, and Professor Boundaries
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 9 October 2023
⏱️ 86 minutes
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00:00 Overcoming self-hatred
10:44 Childhood narcissism
16:12 OPP
19:39 Corrective measures in therapy & therapist abandonment
26:47 Transactional relationships & transitioning away from insurance coverage
49:38 PTSD from therapist abandonment
1:01:27 OPP 2
1:04:23 Professor boundaries & trauma dumping
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October 9, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob emails what do you say yeah annual patron JB she says hello Dr. Honda and Bob I listen to |
| 0:09.4 | all your podcasts especially the ones with Bob I was wondering if you could talk about self-hate |
| 0:16.0 | and how to overcome it most of the experts on the internet talk about it like it's a problem |
| 0:22.4 | with low self-esteem but I think I have pretty high self-esteem I am confident in my abilities |
| 0:28.7 | and most people think I'm very well put together they don't know that deep down I can't convince |
| 0:34.4 | myself that I deserve to live no matter what I accomplish I have borderline personality shorter |
| 0:40.9 | and I am in therapy my therapist is competent but he is very exasperated with me because I am so stuck |
| 0:49.1 | with self-hatred Bob what do you think well I feel sad yeah yeah and I'm thinking it sounds like |
| 0:58.7 | that person is in a struggle a tug of war with self-hatred like they want to win and maybe it's |
| 1:03.8 | getting acted out in their therapy session where the therapist is sort of taking the other ends |
| 1:08.1 | think let's get you out of self-hate no no I'm gonna stay in um so that has a name right what's |
| 1:14.0 | the name of that when you project your defense uh start over projecting a defense yeah like |
| 1:20.4 | like I have two parts of me and splitting well one part gets acted out you act up one |
| 1:26.5 | projective identification yeah that's what I thought it is yeah yeah yeah so it sounds like |
| 1:30.2 | there in that that happens a lot and um right right so you're saying that the therapist is feeling |
| 1:37.0 | the exasperation but the original exasperated is a part of herself yes that she is projecting |
| 1:45.6 | in through counter transference and transference into the therapist yeah therapist is feeling it |
| 1:50.1 | should be booking that and wait and exasperation also implies a judgment or a rejection yeah right |
| 1:57.9 | so yeah so if that's the case you know interesting and worth talking about in your therapy session |
| 2:04.6 | and then I was also thinking well what's its function what's it doing for you like rather than |
| 2:11.2 | try to excise it maybe you could be just interested in it or curious about it not with the idea that |
| 2:16.8 | oh I'll pay attention to you and then you'll go away but more like I'll just pay attention to you |
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