Fat Phobia, Getting Your Ex Back, and Making a Difference
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.5 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 11 October 2023
⏱️ 63 minutes
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00:00 Love's Executioner & fatphobia
02:32 Contrasting fantasies after breaking up
22:38 Free association in therapy
36:20 Defending against attachment loss
47:25 OPP
48:56 How can I help people?
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October 11, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | So Bob, let's answer emails. What do you say? Yeah. So this first email is from anonymous patron. She says |
| 0:06.3 | you recommended Love's Executioner by Irving Yolom on the podcast and I'm currently reading it and |
| 0:14.0 | it's fantastic. Thank you for the recommendation. However, as a fat woman, I'm struggling a bit with |
| 0:20.1 | the chapter called Fat Lady. Yeah. Well, it's got some wonderful gems. It's also a bit, it's a bit |
| 0:27.0 | of a rough read for me. It's rife with Yolom's jokes and observations about Betty's body all the |
| 0:32.0 | way to the end of the chapter. I guess I'm wondering if you would be willing to share your thoughts on |
| 0:37.7 | some of the things discussed in the chapter, like kind of transparent stigma against fat people or how |
| 0:44.0 | obesity is discussed, categorized, pathologized in the world of psychology. Bob, what do you think? |
| 0:49.9 | Yeah. I haven't read that book in a long, long time and what I remember of it of appreciating about |
| 0:57.6 | that chapter was his willingness to own his own bias and, you know, prejudice. But I think if I could |
| 1:06.7 | reread it now through the eyes of, you know, the growth of the last 25 years, I probably see it |
| 1:13.6 | differently and I might, I could imagine rereading it and thinking, or if went far, but not far enough, |
| 1:22.4 | but so I don't want to defend him, like, and I don't want to, you know, but I just, that's all I |
| 1:29.1 | remember is I appreciating that him, he was at least, as he was writing, he was at least owning some |
| 1:35.0 | of his bias. And that's, that's the thing I like about that book. Yeah. Yeah. I don't remember that |
| 1:42.2 | chapter personally. I read it at least a few times in the past, but I can't recall, but I guess |
| 1:50.5 | the only thing I'll add is that for young people out there, whatever fat phobia and the prevalence |
| 1:59.1 | of fat jokes you see in culture today was 100 times worse 30 years ago. Yeah. It was just the, |
| 2:08.7 | it was just what he saw open season on fat people in the past. You could do whatever you wanted to. |
| 2:16.1 | You could just openly ridicule them in movies and television, in person, on the street. It was |
| 2:27.6 | really awful. It's still bad, but it was really bad in the past. Just going on with another |
| 2:33.7 | email here, anonymous patron, he says, I wanted to hear from the hosts, specifically Bob. Oh, |
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