All right, men, welcome back to the man talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today I am going to be sharing with you this single most important thing that you need

to understand in order to improve your sense of self-worth and your self-esteem.

Now, I've worked with a lot of men over the years who have lacked self-esteem, and there are some

very real things that can go into not having self-esteem, which is going to be a separate

conversation. But for today, I want to talk about the single most important thing that you need to know in order to improve self-esteem, which is going to be a separate conversation. But for today, I want to talk about the

single most important thing that you need to know in order to improve your self-esteem and help

you understand why your self-esteem hasn't shifted through all the work that maybe you've done,

all the books that you've read, all the programs and courses that maybe you've embarked on.

I want to talk about one of the things that is at the very foundation of it that will help you make progress

quickly. The one thing that I think most people don't understand or talk about, which is that

when you lack self-worth, it actually requires reinforcement. It is not a state that is just consistent and stationary,

right? It actually requires reinforcement. So when you lack a sense of self-worth or self-esteem,

and you're like, I'm questioning whether or not I have value in this relationship or whether

I'm contributing to my work environment or I don't feel

confident about myself. All of that is not a consistent state. It's not like you're in this

low, shitty place all the time lacking self-esteem. It's actually that you lack self-esteem because

of the reinforcement mechanism that creates this lack of

self-esteem. So let me explain. The reinforcement that happens that continues to reinforce that

you don't have very good self-esteem or that you lack value or a sense of worth is making

decisions and choices that you know are not good for you.

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