It's not much news that difficult experiences happen.

That's kind of important points to understand what we all sort of intellectually know it, we tend to take bad news, bad interpersonal experiences, challenges,

challenges, frustrations.

We tend to take it pretty personally,

I think there's something wrong.

Especially the emotions that arise in the aftermath.

The emotions that we feel, negative emotions after interpersonal disappointment can be pretty painful and it's very easy to try not to feel the emotional aftermath of a disappointing event.

Grief is the emotion that we feel when we have a loss.

Sadness is the emotion we feel when an attachment that we thought was reliable,

whether with a group or another person becomes tenuous, threatened.

Anger is the emotion we feel when someone in some way threatens us or our attachments, fear, the concern about losing objects or relationships that offer us security.

Guilt and shame are the emotions that we feel after we do something that in some way works against the interest of the tribe

that we belong to, the group that we are a member of, family, group, friendships.

So all the emotions that I've just listed, the sadness, the grief, the anger, the guilt, shame, fear, they are entirely

natural and they play a very important role in life in that they're all geared to urge us to adapt after we've had a significant emotional experience or a significant challenge. significant

challenging experience.

Grief, for example, pushes us to

fully emotionally let go of an attachment that we relied on.

Without grief, we don't accept we live in denial that we've lost somebody.

Sadness is the feeling or loneliness is the feeling we have when our connections with friends or family

becomes thin and tenuous.

And the point of sadness is to not only alert us to

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