We all screw up every day and if you're going to just spend time outlining every infraction and your outline, that's not going to be helpful.

So if you in a secure way of relating before you go, go, what is my ask? What did I feel being self-aware?

What did that impact? Why? And what I want to say about it. But here's the other key is how does this relate to the other person?

If for whatever reason my complaint is something, and I haven't considered how the other person relates in this way,

whether they're maybe more socially anxious and so why they were there, they were more ignoring you.

And you're just like, you're ignoring me and I'm all about my feelings. I'm not going, oh, how does this other person relate socially?

So there's this way of thinking about it. I'm not suggesting overthinking about it.

But A, think what is your ask? And in that ask, can you incorporate what you know of the person that you're relating to?

So that when you sit down, you're not ready just to discuss the infractions. You're really connected.

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