Secure Distortions, Bad Therapists, Complex Trauma, and Child Violence
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
4.6 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 21 April 2023
⏱️ 72 minutes
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00:00 Cognitive distortions in secure attachment
04:09 Hawaiian pizza & 'fake' Americans
09:56 Being a victim with BPD
15:14 CPTSD from adult trauma
21:39 Misogyny in the workplace
23:33 Why do 'boomerang' relationships hurt?
33:23 OPP
34:27 Reddit & an unethical therapist
41:15 Solo D&D
46:47 Violent acts vs. normal play in children
1:06:15 Feminist & anti-oppressive approach in therapy
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April 21, 2023
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| 0:00.0 | Haters or listeners, I thought I would answer some upper tier patron emails. |
| 0:04.0 | I'm working my way through those. |
| 0:06.0 | So let's get to it. |
| 0:07.0 | Upper tier patron Jordan, she wrote in and said, |
| 0:10.2 | I was watching your reactions to Love is Blind and listening to your hypotheses about the different couples. |
| 0:16.7 | A couple of times, you tentatively expressed that you were surprised about calling and |
| 0:20.7 | Matt saying yes at the altar. |
| 0:23.0 | As a person with an insecure attachment style myself, |
| 0:26.2 | I could see all the indicators that they would indeed say yes. |
| 0:29.7 | And they did say yes. |
| 0:31.1 | It may be think that folks with secure attachment styles, like yourself, |
| 0:35.2 | may have distortions as well. |
| 0:37.6 | From my perspective, your assertions were vastly underestimating how even destructive conflict |
| 0:42.9 | can foster intimacy. |
| 0:45.0 | Can securely attached folks still be prone to cognitive distortions and to email? |
| 0:51.3 | Yeah, the short answer is absolutely. |
| 0:54.4 | And I hope I never said otherwise. |
| 0:57.4 | One, that too, I don't know anyone who is in my conceptualization of attachment style |
| 1:06.2 | completely securely attached all the time. |
| 1:10.1 | I don't even think that's what the theory suggests itself. |
| 1:13.9 | So to say that somehow securely attached individuals are constantly seeing the world |
| 1:22.2 | in an undistorted way is, of course, nonsensical. |
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