Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of the Relationship Coaching School podcast. I'm your host, Jason,

and I'm getting over COVID, guys. Yeah, first time I got initiated here, finally. Five years in,

so I'm in the club now. So I'm a little gunked up,

but felt this was important to get this quick message out to you about attachment versus

falling in love. Specifically secure attachment versus falling in love.

So I'm actually kind of surprised how common this error is that people make,

which is to think in the first six months to a year of your relationship, your new relationship,

you're in a, quote, securely attached relationship.

So this is a myth.

This is magical thinking, and it's just not accurate.

So I just wanted to tell you my two cents here in case you have clients that fall into this trance or in case you fall into this spell.

So let me explain.

So this is most common with people who have had a history of

not great relationships. This is what I notice. Okay. This is just my anecdotal observation from

a couple decades working with people is people will say things like this.

When I ask or I overhear, hey, how's your relationship?

Oh my God, it's so good.

It's, I've never been in a relationship like this. It's so healthy and it's securely attached.

And man, it just feels so good to finally be in a healthy relationship. And that's one thing

people say. Another thing people say is, oh, finally, I'm in a securely attached relationship.

It's about time.

Wow, it feels really good.

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