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Hi, this is Janet Lansfury.

Welcome to Unruffled.

Today I'm going to respond to notes I received from three different families who all are asking,

how can I say it? How can I tell this to my child? In one case, it's about a new relationship

that this parent is in after being separated from her child's father. Another one is about

setting a limit that a child isn't accepting. And they keep

asking and asking and asking after we've given our answer. And the third one is about these parents'

choice to move out of a neighborhood where their children have been settled for their whole life and have friends,

and there's obviously going to be feelings involved. So those are the three topics I'm going to

be specifically talking about, but this advice I'm offering applies to anything that we

want to talk to children about. It's also the way to talk to them

that helps them to listen and accept what we've said. It all boils down to talking to children

with the same respect we would with an adult. Children are different in so many ways,

but they deserve the same human respect in communication. And you'll find that's what they

respond to best. And I'm going to explain what I mean by that in a moment. So I'm going to start

off with the first note, and then I'll talk about the really simple. So I'm going to start off with the first note, and then I'll talk

about the really simple advice that I'm going to offer. The first one, thank you so much for all

the wonderful content. My daughter is six, and your podcast and articles have helped me so much

over the years. My daughter's dad and I have been separated for three years and co-parent 50-50. I'm in my first relationship

since the separation, and I'm wondering when and how to introduce my daughter to my partner.

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