Scientific Matchmaking (2020 Rerun)
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
Kirk Honda
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🗓️ 10 February 2026
⏱️ 96 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, deserving listeners, I want you to think back to the last person that you had a crush on, |
| 0:05.7 | or you were romantically attracted to them. What was it about them that made you attracted to them? |
| 0:13.5 | Was it how they looked? Was it how they talked? Was it how they walked? Was it how they laughed? Was it how they twirled their hair or took out their wallet and paid for something? What was it? Would it be obvious to the rest of us as why you were attracted to them? Or would it take some explaining from you? More precisely, what are the qualities in a human that attract you to those other humans? |
| 0:41.3 | You know, what are the qualities that make you want to walk across that room and introduce yourself? |
| 0:46.1 | That make you want to swipe right or left or whatever people do these days. |
| 0:51.3 | Okay, so now that you have that person in mind or those qualities in mind, you know, |
| 0:56.1 | think about those top things that attract you. Think back also to your most recent long-term |
| 1:04.2 | relationship or the relationship that you're in right now. Why are you with that person? What is |
| 1:09.7 | what is it about that person that makes you want to stay with that |
| 1:12.9 | person? If you're in a good relationship, what scientifically makes you a good match between the two |
| 1:19.8 | of you? Can you quantify those qualities? Is it the physical attraction? Is it the communication? |
| 1:26.2 | Is it things that you share in common? |
| 1:28.3 | If you're anything like me, these are really tough questions to answer. |
| 1:32.3 | I mean, I could answer them at length if you ask me why I'm with my wife. |
| 1:36.3 | I could talk for five months about why I'm with her. |
| 1:40.3 | But I'm not sure if it would be very scientific. |
| 1:54.3 | You know, I'd say things like, well, you know, we're in love and or something like, you know, I just know that my wife is the one for me or things just feel good. |
| 1:55.6 | And that's fine. |
| 1:59.8 | You know, we can have our explanations and that's our, that's our stories. |
| 2:04.6 | But what about people who are looking for their special someone and they haven't found that person yet? Can science help them find that person? If you're single out there and |
| 2:09.5 | you're looking for someone, can science help you find that person? It's certainly not a |
| 2:14.7 | question that a lot of people ask themselves. Surely psychology and other social sciences are interested in this question. |
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