SC 99 - Husband Doesn't Want To Work On Marriage
Relationship School Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.6 • 981 Ratings
🗓️ 20 February 2017
⏱️ 18 minutes
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Summary
Question: We’ve been together 3 months and I’ve been on a path of self development for many years. My new partner is very new to inner work and has not prioritized that. He’s open and he’s curious but he’s new to it all. There’s a lot of fear there for me because I’m worries as we get to know each other his lack of self awareness and self understanding might create blocks. I’ve let him know this but I’m not sure whether I should just walk away now and try find somebody who I feel can meet me as an equal, or just accept him as he is. What is the healthiest thing to do in this situation?
- Finding reasons why our partner ‘isn’t enough’. [2:00]
- Why it’s hard if one partner doesn’t want to grow in the relationship [4:00]
- If your partner is interested but slower [8:00]
Question: Is it a good idea to tell a prospective partner your non-negotiable about personal development right off the bat?
- Laying your values on the table [12:00]
- We all are directing our ‘growth and development’ energy somewhere [14:00]
- It’s about priorities, not time. [16:00]
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | So, Okay, welcome to the smart Couple, podcast, and show here on Facebook and Instagram live, |
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| 1:16.8 | Let's see if we can hear it. |
| 1:17.8 | Hi, Jason, my name's Lucine. |
| 1:20.9 | I'm going to ask a quick question about my new relationship. We've been together three months and I've been on a path of self-development for many years, still learning and growing and working in the field. And my new partner is very new to inner work and just has not prioritized that. |
| 1:38.5 | He's open and he's curious but he, yeah, he's new to it all. |
| 1:45.6 | And there's a lot of fear there for me |
| 1:47.6 | because I'm worried as we get to know each other. |
| 1:50.5 | His lack of self-awareness, self-understanding might create blocks and I've let |
| 1:56.3 | him know this but I'm not sure whether I should just walk away now and try and find somebody |
| 2:01.6 | that you know is I feel that can meet me as an equal |
| 2:05.3 | in this area. Or, um, I, you know, just try and accept him for how he is or try and inspire him to deepen what is the healthiest thing to do in the situation. |
| 2:17.0 | Thanks. |
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