SC 92 - Abusive Relationships and How to Deal With Them

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 25 January 2017

⏱️ 71 minutes

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Summary

Are you in an abusive relationship? In this episode we explore some of the hallmarks of an "abusive" relationship and what to do with any form of disrespect, neglect, or abuse. It's actually harder than you think and there's more work to do than to just "leave" the relationship. I answer loads of questions from listeners like you on abuse in your relationship life. I think there might be some confronting and helpful information in here for you.

SHOWNOTES

What is an abusive relationship? My definition might surprise you [9:00]
How to know if you’re in an abusive adult relationship [11:00]
The difference between fault and responsibility [13:00]
How we heal trauma [14:00]
Why ‘just leave’ is often the wrong advice [17:00]
What to do if your physical safety is threatened [22:00]
The definition of ‘gaslighting’ [24:00]
Name calling [31:00]
Discover your criteria for abuse [34:00]
The I, You and We of thriving partnerships [36:00]
On mutually abusive relationships [44:00]
Dealing with Stonewalling [46:00]
The ‘deer in headlights’ response - and how to use it to your advantage [49:00]
If you’re a man in an abusive relationship [51:00]
Learning the difference between real and perceived threats [56:00]
Firmness vs Anger [1:04:00]
Your action step [1:06:00]

Transcript

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0:00.0	What? People talk to you that way?
0:02.8	Oh my God, what are you still doing in that relationship? So, Hey and welcome back to the Smart Couple podcast. I'm Jason Gaddis, your host.
0:30.0	Very grateful to be here with you right now.
0:33.0	Talking about long-term relationship,
0:36.0	the dance of intimacy with one person over many years.
0:40.0	How do we do that?
0:42.0	How do we do it well? How do we do it in a way that works for both of us?
0:47.0	That's what we discuss here at the Smart Couple Podcast.
0:50.0	And we interview relationship experts, couples, everyday people, and my wife and I jam out sometimes, and I answer your questions.
1:02.0	This podcast comes out twice a week,
1:04.3	usually on Monday nights in Mountain Time Zone
1:07.5	and Wednesday nights.
1:09.6	And so you can look for us in iTunes or Stitcher.
1:14.0	And probably the easiest way to get this directly to your phone is just to subscribe in iTunes to the podcast.
1:21.0	That way you're not having to go to the website or whatever. However, I do like your comments and your
1:28.8	comments on the show notes are really, really helpful. And in the private Facebook community,
1:35.7	the Smart Couple Group, there's a lot of different ways
1:38.0	in which I get feedback that informs
1:40.6	how we serve you even better. A reminder that part of my motivation for designing
1:48.3	this podcast was to help people with one of the toughest areas of our life but also one of the most rewarding areas of our life, which is partnership.
1:59.0	To really do partnership well is very, very challenging for most people.
2:04.0	And we don't learn this in school.
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