Hey, what's up? Jason Gatis here. Welcome back to this Mark Couple. Today I've got a really

uncomfortable topic and that is Affairs. We're going to come out this from a completely

different angle than mostly what's talked out. Hey Jason Gattice here welcome back to the smart couple podcast where we really

care so much about getting to the truth of the matter between two people in long-term partnership.

We care to use great tools, respect, honoring the other person, to have our needs get met,

to feel seen and understood,

and to do the same for our partner.

And if we're in one of those relationships where there that's not going on,

then we've got a problem. So ideally this podcast is designed to help you get to that place

where you're more fulfilled in your relationship,

not happy, we're not going for happy because most people want a happy relationship in your

relationship, we're not going for happy because most people who want happy relationship

want happy without sad, they want pleasure without pain.

The smart approach, of course, as you're learning is to embrace both sides, dark and light in a

relationship and in doing so you're going to be more fulfilled, ironically. So the

smart couple faces their BS and how the smart couple approaches an affair after it's happened is to move towards gratitude that it happened because an affair

nine times out of 10 in my experience ten times out of ten actually helps the individuals.

And if one person goes into victim mode

that and stays there for many years

and feels really hurt and betrayed

and they get stuck there, that is still helpful because that person hasn't gotten any tools,

and hasn't seen an accurate way to get out of their swamp of shame and self-betrayal, other betrayal, blaming the other person, whatever it is.

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