SC 79 - How To Deal With Holiday Family Drama

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 22 November 2016

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Family drama will show you exactly where you and your partner are or are not aligned. Not knowing how to navigate your own triggers around your family can lead to some strange and even painful "gifts" over the holidays. That's why I'm spending an episode on how to deal with the likely family drama that will occur this holiday season. This will help you and your partner (or future partner) know what to do to reduce the stress and be more of a team. That way you can actually enjoy yourself during the holidays!

SHOWNOTES

Jayson shares his initial stumbles in trying to "fix" his family dynamic. [7:00]
What a typical holiday dinner looks like. [9:15]
What is your role in your family dynamic? [11:45]
7 tips to better navigate your upcoming family gathering. [13:30]
The responsibility of the most emotionally mature person in the room. [15:00]
The surprising benefit of having your partner's back. [20:00]
How to flip your expectation of wanting your family to be curious about you. [22:00]
The truth about judgment. [24:30]
Jayson gives you an action step. [32:00]

Transcript

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0:00.0	So whose fault is it if things don't go well during the holidays? Is it your
0:06.6	fucked up family's fault? No, it's on you and it's not your fault it's your
0:11.7	responsibility. Hi and I am one part of a smart couple podcast. My name is Jason Gattis. I'm your host and I am one part of a smart couple. The other part is my partner Ellen, who sometimes comes on. She
0:49.3	won't be with us today. She'll be coming on soon. We are scheming our next episode together.
0:57.0	Anyway, if you're joining us now for the first time, welcome. It's great to have you here.
1:02.0	And if you're returning thanks for
1:05.4	coming back some of you really look forward to this so I hear my job is to
1:10.5	deliver a lot of excellent relationship content that will help you in your intimate
1:16.0	partnership. And if you are single, my job is to educate you about your past relationships and help you prepare for the next one.
1:27.0	You don't need my help in the honeymoon phase, however.
1:30.0	You rock that out like anybody does. You're sexy, you're charming, you're funny, it's all good with you, you don't get triggered, we're doing great, hey, all is well.
1:43.2	None of us need help with the dopamine phase
1:46.9	of the first few months of a relationship.
1:49.9	Now, not all of us experience that, I get that.
1:52.3	I didn't really experience that with my wife,
1:54.6	but I, anyone I was infatuated with initially, I did experience that with. And it felt really good.
2:02.0	That's when the poetry came out, that's when I was high on drugs,
2:06.0	the drugs of the new relationship, and you kind of can't go wrong in that first week or month or two. It feels really good. If you've ever
2:17.0	experienced that, right? It's amazing. And that's what all the sappy love
2:21.8	songs are written from is that stage.
2:25.0	Now, any smart person knows that that eventually crashes and burns and then you are living with or partnered with someone who begins to get annoying, irritating, challenging, frustrating, and triggers you in places that don't feel very good.
2:44.0	Well, that's where we come in here at the smart couple.
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