SC 29 - 3 Ways To Inspire Love Over Time - Adam Gilad

The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 999 Ratings

🗓️ 23 December 2015

⏱️ 53 minutes

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Summary

This episode was a lot of fun. Former dedicated David Deida student Adam Gilad brings some excellent advice during this dialogue. We cover fatherhood, dating, marriage, and why Adam couldn’t do relationship early on and what he “figured out” along the way. He also shares his most recent wedding vows and so much more. I think you’re in for a treat here.

SHOWNOTES:

What lead Adam to teach about relationship? [3:55]
A personal share from Jayson: re-writing marriage vows [12:30]
The #1 thing that made Adam ready for deep relationship [13:40]
Adam shares his “one vow to rule them all” [15:55]
Reframe: the idea of marriage as “hard work” [18:10]
Playing the infinite game of love [25:10]
Why do people hold back on asking for what they need/want in relationship? [25:10]
The difference between finding and inspiring love [29:25]
The 3 ways to inspire love [33:20]
Adam’s answer to inspired marriages [43:15]
Adam brings a vulnerable share [44:55]
Jayson and Adam swap stories of being a father [47:40]

Transcript

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0:00.0	What you want to do? Hey there, what's up people?
0:13.0	Welcome to the Smart Couple Podcast. Man, I hurt my shoulder recently and it's all funky. I'm putting my arm in the air right now and I'm wincing as I do that.
0:37.0	Anyway, extraneous detail.
0:40.0	So the Smart Couple podcast is about using things like pain like I'm experiencing in my shoulder or discomfort as an opportunity to grow to go deeper in my relationship, in my relationship to myself and with my partner.
0:56.0	And to me it's really the only way to do relationship long term,
1:01.0	because that's the winning game.
1:02.0	If you want the losing game or the boring game or the
1:05.0	burnout game, you can keep expecting your partner be the way you want them to be and not grow and clamp down and think you know something about
1:15.6	relationship when in actuality you don't because you didn't learn this in
1:19.8	school and neither did I and I'm of course on a mission to change that but in the meantime we're going to give you
1:25.6	tips and tools and advice from leading experts on relationship people who have fought hard to learn the relationship game, people who
1:38.2	fumble the ball sometimes and get back up and stay in the conversation, and then certainly musings from myself, dialogues with my wife, etc.
1:48.4	So in this episode I've got Adam Gilaad and Adam is a long time student of David Data.
1:56.0	He is a father. He's a great guy. He's really on a mission to help change the way we do relationship in his own way and I really
2:09.2	appreciate what this man is up to. In this episode he really covers some great points. I'm just going to give you a couple highlights here.
2:19.6	He doesn't believe in finding love. I think that's an interesting part of the
2:23.7	dialogue early on that you're going to find fascinating. Yeah, I really love it. He's
2:28.5	kind of a master reframer and he's really into language.
2:32.6	You'll notice several times where he's like,
2:34.4	I say something and he's like,
2:35.4	uh, no, that's not really what I'd say.
2:37.7	Or, huh, let me think about that.
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