SC 24 - Women: 3 Steps To Get Your Man To Show Up In The Relationship - Terry Real

The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 999 Ratings

🗓️ 19 November 2015

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

This episode was a lot of fun. Terry Real brings the heat for women and men using what he calls “fierce intimacy.” While this episode is for both men and women, it is largely geared toward women who are with a guy who’s not fully on board. He has some great advice for women, while at the same time challenges men to develop their relationship skills. I know you’ll dig this one.

SHOWNOTES:

Beginning of interview [4:30]
Terry shares how he came to be interested in relationship work [5:00]
What is “fierce intimacy”? [7:20]
The difference between a good man and a great man [12:30]
Advice for young millennial men [15:00]
What Terry says to women who are frustrated with their men [19:30]
A lot of men who wont do the work for themselves or for the marriage, will get it and rise to the occasion for the sake of… [23:00]
3 key steps for women to work with their shutdown men (this is very good) [26:00]
Should women reward their man’s effort with sex? [32:45]
The design flaw in the way most therapists do therapy [40:10]
Parting comments [50:15]

Transcript

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0:00.0	What you want to do? Greetings friends welcome back back to the Smart Couple Podcast where we dismantle all the
0:28.9	fantasies around marriage and long-term relationship, and insert a new way of relating.
0:36.6	Perhaps it's an old way for some people.
0:39.7	And since the vast majority of people, human beings, are stuck in fantasies around relationship
0:46.4	and they don't really get the rigor involved in long-term partnership, this podcast is designed to help address that challenge, right?
0:56.8	Because I don't know about you, but growing up, I had a fantasy about relationship that when I meet the one it feels good and it keeps feeling good and as
1:06.6	soon as it doesn't feel good I've got a big problem and I want to leave or do something different right And that's what I did. So if you have that
1:16.8	attitude you're gonna fail and drop out a relationship and you'll typically blame
1:22.4	the other person for your discomfort in
1:25.8	relationship.
1:27.7	So this podcast takes a more intelligent approach and sees the power and beauty in the discomfort that our partner usually triggers us
1:38.0	where we need to grow. And if you're open to growth and development, that's not a problem. If you are not, good luck.
1:45.0	All right. Today, I'm really grateful to have this guy Terry Reel.
2:06.7	And I thought it was pronounced Real he gets that a lot apparently but it's real just like it sounds Terry real and Terry is very real and this guy's a therapist who's been working many many years in the trenches with couples and has a ton of experience he's been
2:11.0	featured on Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America. He's got several books. His
2:17.5	latest book is called The New Rules of Marriage, What You Need to make love work.
2:23.0	And as you're going to see here, he's,
2:27.0	he just gets what's going on in intimacy and partnership.
2:32.0	And we talk a lot about the male female dynamics and so he's got some
2:38.2	great advice for men he definitely challenges men if you're a male listener and for the women if you're with a man who's a little stuck or unavailable he's got some bombs that he's going to drop that are really great and I see this dynamic a lot and I think if you're a woman you're going to get really served here
2:59.6	So he I'm just gonna kind of give you a couple bullet points.
3:03.3	So he talks about fierce intimacy and why intimate relationships
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