SC 19 - 3 Steps To End Relationship Drama

The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.7 • 999 Ratings

🗓️ 8 October 2015

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

In this episode I unpack 3 really important steps to removing the drama from your relationships. Drama can be a time suck, an energy drain, and can hurt your relationship even more. So, check this short episode out and notice if you are perpetuating drama, or doing your best to end it.

SHOWNOTES:

What does Jayson mean when he says drama? [2:00]
3 main ingredients to ending the drama [4:40]
1. Reframe it and see it as an opportunity rather than a problem [5:50]
2. Say NO to drama, by saying YES to conflict [7:00]
3. Learn the art and wisdom of understanding each other [13:50]
What does it mean to validate someone else’s experience? [17:00]

Transcript

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0:38.0	I didn't do that. Yes you did. No I didn't. Okay then what happened? Well I just said that. No you said this. What did I say? That? Come on that's not what I said. I said this. No, you said that. You always say that. I never said that. I said this. Why do you keep saying that? What? That? I didn't say that. You just did. No I didn't. I didn't even do that. Yes you did. No I did that. That's what I just said. No you didn't. Yes Yes, I did. I already told you that told me what that you said this no I said that Wait a second. You're going around in circles again. You keep saying the same thing.
0:44.0	No, I don't. You do. You're the one who's going around in circles. No I'm not. Yes you are.
0:49.6	Oh man, here we go again what never mind
0:57.6	hey there what's up welcome back to the smart couple
1:01.1	podcast where we really challenge the notion of
1:06.0	traditional marriage equals happiness. It's more like marriage equals good times and bad times.
1:18.5	And if you're in the game of marriage for the long haul,
1:22.1	you understand that there's going to be
1:24.4	some challenges there's going to be some peaks and there's going to be some valleys
1:27.8	so you may as well learn how to deal with those and and when we don't learn how to deal with those and when we don't learn how to deal with those
1:34.2	we're gonna add on more struggle to the pile you know what I'm saying okay so as I
1:41.6	sit here in Boulder sipping my decaf coffee with coconut oil in it, I'm reflecting
1:48.9	on relationship drama.
1:53.0	Today's episode is going to be all about relationship drama and how to end it.
2:00.0	So, you know what I'm saying when I say drama, right?
2:04.3	It's that type of interaction that feels overwhelming, it feels, it has you like, rolling your eyes, it's enough challenge that causes you to doubt the relationship.
2:25.0	It causes you to judge the other person.
2:29.0	It's either has you say things like, why me or why am I with them?
2:36.1	Why can't this be easier?
2:38.8	I can't believe I'm freaking with this person.
2:45.0	Why can't they just fill in the blank? You know, like, it's, we're challenging to be in relationship with.
2:50.0	We are a handful, right? You're a handful, I'm a handful. And when we don't learn skills to deal with the handful, we just flail, right? And we blame, we judge, we run away, we shut down. We do a number of things that to me all can be categorized as drama. So drama can be defined
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