SC 185 - Parents-Why Your Kids Need You To Be In Charge - Kim John Payne
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 1 March 2018
⏱️ 79 minutes
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Summary
Kids have been getting a lot of attention for troubling behavior recently...committing mass shootings, posting disturbing viral videos and lashing out at their parents with shocking rage. What is going on!?!
In this episode, renowned author and counselor Kim John Payne clears up misconceptions about "disobedient" children and explains how you can bring a balance of power back to your household.
SHOWNOTES:
- Be Inquisitive, Not Accusatory [18:00]
- When a Child is Distressed, Connection is Key [27:00]
- Why it's a Mistake to Give Kids Too Many Choices [31:00]
- Don't Take it Personally When Your Kid Pushes Your Buttons [45:00]
- Are You "Peer Parenting"? [49:00]
- What You Can Do to Take Back the Leadership Role [58:00]
- Kim's Take on Youth Involvement in Mass Shootings [1:01:00]
- How to Parent Post National Tragedy [1:04:00]
- Your Home the War Zone [1:10:00]
- The Four Types Love & Why We Shouldn't Confuse Them [1:16:00]
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| 0:00.0 | So the little girl did an incredibly sensible thing. She hauled back and she kicked her mother so hard. |
| 0:08.2 | And she just ran, right? She just took off and I thought you go girl. Hello. Hello and welcome back to the relationship schools smart couple |
| 0:40.2 | podcast and welcome if you're new. |
| 0:44.6 | I'm Jason Gatis, your host, and I'm on a mission to help people like you understand |
| 0:51.0 | what it takes to succeed in a long-term relationship. That's my jam, all right, and I'm going to help the |
| 0:57.5 | planet do that as well. Here at the Smart Couple podcast, we like to inform and educate you and encourage you to train. |
| 1:07.0 | Otherwise, under reactivity and under stress, you're going to default to childhood patterns and strategies that |
| 1:14.3 | probably don't serve that well in terms of relationship success. Okay so we |
| 1:21.7 | examine a lot of tools, tricks, and hacks in order to be thriving and to feel |
| 1:28.7 | met and seen and understood in a long-term relationship and how to give that to other people. |
| 1:35.0 | Occasionally I do an interview that might sound tangential and unrelated but on closer examination, it's completely related. |
| 1:45.0 | So if you want to have thriving relationships in your life, we look at, well, |
| 1:52.0 | where did that start? |
| 1:53.0 | Your primary relationship started in your family of origin |
| 1:56.0 | and who had the biggest influence on you? |
| 1:59.0 | Your parents. |
| 2:00.0 | So I occasionally sprinkle in some parenting advice and in this episode in particular I found a parenting expert someone who has been working with young people for 30 years and their parents. |
| 2:16.3 | So he's been a high school counselor, he's been a family therapist, he's helped people in |
| 2:21.2 | a number of settings have more fulfilling and successful family |
| 2:26.1 | relationships and his name is Kim John Payne and he is the author of a book |
| 2:31.6 | called Simplicity Parenting and also the Soul of Discipline. |
| 2:37.0 | So I wanted to talk to Kim about parenting, how us parents can really do a better job. |
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