allowing your partner to be what I call your tour mentor with a hyphen between the

torn in the middle by triggering you your partner is teaching you what you need to hear. Hey and welcome back to the relationship school's Smart Couple

podcast. My name is Jason Gaddis. I'm your host and I'm here to

destroy any fantasies you have about long-term relationship.

Okay?

I can't tell you how many people get into lots of bullshit fantasies about how relationships work.

And that's what they are folks fantasies it rarely works out that way

so this podcast is designed to help you get real and get really honest with yourself your

partner your future partner and have a relationship

based on growing and developing yourself, because to me it's the only way to make it a fulfilling

one.

I'm grateful for your time and attention here. We've got a really good

episode coming up here with the founder of the Internal Family Systems model

Richard Schwartz, otherwise known as Dick Schwartz.

Here's a little bit about Dick.

Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and academic at the University of

Illinois at Chicago there.

He discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in

asking patients why he learned that there are plagued by what they called parts.

These patients became his teachers as they described how their parts form networks of in a relationship

that resembled the families he'd been working with.

So it's like an internal family versus an external one.

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