Yo,

welcome back to the Smart Couple,

where we are all about using relationship to help us grow and using the smartest, most efficient,

most inspirational tactics to get what we want in a relationship and to really say

yes to conflict to embrace to

embrace the person that we've chosen to be with

with fully and that can be super challenging,

especially in a long-term relationship.

So this is really about going from ignorance into intelligence in your relationships

with the very best tools and I'm interviewing really a lot of

great people top-notch relationship experts everyday couples, my wife, myself, and just using it all to grow. So today I feel

very psyched because I've got David Cates with us.

David Cates is the guy who, two things, two significant things about David Cates is he he was the guy I reached out to when I was struggling sexually

I was losing my erection and this cat I finally stepped through myself enough to have the courage to call someone for help.

And this guy was the guy I talked to, and he helped me through it.

And he gave me sound guidance and helped me heal that in myself. And then

secondarily as we became friends over the years I hit a pretty dark spot in my life.

And David Cates was the man who midwived me through a real ego death experience

and into just a deeper more connected version of myself.

I had to do a lot of letting go and there was a lot of fear

and terror.

It's kind of like a midlife crisis

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