SC 156 - Setting Boundaries with Ease, Grace and Love - Terri Cole
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 6 September 2017
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
Boundaries are essential in a partnership and Terri Cole knows a lot about them. We talk about getting sober, parenting her inner child, what it takes to have your marriage as a top priority and what women can do to balance being independently strong with interdependently connected. This podcast interview is fun and full of gems.
SHOWNOTES
- Terri’s story [10:00]
- The 3 questions you need to ask yourself when you get triggered [21:00]
- What is ‘transference’ and how to we ‘repeat realities’? [23:00]
- How you can become more knowledgeable about your internal experience [26:00]
- Why is it important to do inner-child work? [27:00]
- What is a ‘Downloaded Love Blue-Print’, and how does it affect every relationship we have? [32:00]
- Examples of language you can use to support your partner when they’re triggered [42:00]
- 1 simple boundary everybody needs [49:00]
- Consequences vs threats [55:00]
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | So, What's up and welcome back to another episode of the relationship school's Smart Couple |
| 0:25.2 | podcast? I'm your host, Jason Gatis, and I'm on a mission to help you learn how to love better, |
| 0:32.0 | bigger, differently, because the education you got around love was limited. |
| 0:37.0 | School probably dropped the ball there. |
| 0:40.0 | Your parents showed you what they showed you and here you are in adult |
| 0:43.8 | relationships acting like you are. So until we learn a new way, a deeper way |
| 0:51.0 | really to love we're going to struggle in partnership. |
| 0:55.7 | We're going to struggle anyway, but we may as well get the best education possible |
| 1:01.6 | to do long-term relationship well and that's what this |
| 1:05.3 | podcast is about doing long-term relationship well. Now I think it is easy for some people. I think it's easier for some than others and |
| 1:17.8 | certainly there's people that never listen to this podcast that would never even think of working on their relationship because it's already |
| 1:26.1 | good. I just want to acknowledge that there are people out there like that. |
| 1:29.8 | Okay, it ain't hard for everybody. |
| 1:35.0 | Those people just don't need this podcast. |
| 1:38.0 | They're rocking it. And my argument would be those people, |
| 1:41.0 | although I don't see them and meet them, partly ever, are doing well because they had a pretty clean, clearer childhood, a very securely attached relationship with their parents. |
| 1:54.7 | They felt really loved growing up, cheered on, supported, and on and on and into adulthood. |
| 2:00.6 | They're just resilient human beings, all and they're smart and so I just for |
| 2:05.9 | those people out there yep it's going on and for those of us that it's a little harder for, we have sensitive nervous systems, we have maybe a different history, |
| 2:17.0 | we have a lack of education perhaps. |
| 2:20.0 | There's a number of different reasons why you might struggle in a long-term relationship |
| 2:23.9 | and that's why you're here. So I appreciate the humility to learn and this |
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