SC 155 - Asking Your Partner To Change
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 5 September 2017
⏱️ 11 minutes
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Summary
QUESTION:
It seems like my husband wants me to change things, and that there are things I want him to change...
Is that the same things as wanting him to grow, just in different terms? I’ve heard you say that people can’t change their partners, but you have said that the goal should be to grow. I’m wondering what the difference is.
How do you accept that your partner isn’t going to change, but then strive or agree to grow?
- Natalie, Denver
SHOWNOTES
- Is it okay to want your partner to change? [2:00]
- Reasonable vs. unreasonable requests [3:00]
- Reframing change from a growth-oriented mindset [4:00]
- Requests that make your partner feel judged [6:00]
- When is it better to move on than to try to change someone? [8:00]
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | So, Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Smart Couple |
| 0:23.8 | podcast show Ask Me Anything episode. |
| 0:26.6 | What's going on? Jason Gatis here. |
| 0:29.0 | I'm psyched to hang with you for a moment. |
| 0:30.9 | Answer a question from an amazing listener. This one's from |
| 0:35.7 | Natalie in Denver. Okay just a quick announcement before I answer Natalie's question here. |
| 0:44.6 | Reminder about a couple things coming up. |
| 0:46.0 | School is almost beginning. |
| 0:49.5 | There's a contest going on, a Share the Love |
| 0:52.1 | Contest right now, and you can win. a and you can want a shirt hat something to spread the love, the message of love in the world. |
| 1:04.4 | All right, because Lord knows we need it. |
| 1:07.9 | All right. What else? Oh, September 13th, it's a Wednesday night. My wife and I are giving a talk here in Boulder, Colorado at Shine Restaurant. |
| 1:22.0 | And it's all about codependency and why codependency is |
| 1:26.2 | necessary in a long-term relationship. It's going to confront you, it's going to |
| 1:30.2 | challenge you, you're going to not want to miss this one. |
| 1:32.8 | Because there's a lot of bullshit about codependency out there. |
| 1:35.9 | So we're going to crack that and help you even understand it better |
| 1:40.5 | and how to play it stronger in your own relationship. |
| 1:43.0 | So Natalie says, |
| 1:45.0 | it seems like my husband wants me to change things |
| 1:49.0 | and that there are things I want him to change. |
| 1:52.0 | So she wants him to change. |
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