SC 149 - Fear of Abandonment
The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Jayson Gaddis
4.7 • 999 Ratings
🗓️ 14 August 2017
⏱️ 11 minutes
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Summary
QUESTION:
I keep running away from relationships with the opposite sex when they start to get close or use the ‘L word’, basically because I think I’m not good enough for them or they’d end up leaving me. I also find it difficult to initiate talks with other people - what do I do?
- Elias
SHOWNOTES
- This episode's question [1:00]
- The irony in running away because you're scared of being left [2:00]
- Fear of being alone is human. Here's how you can use it to build intimacy [3:00]
- Working on your triggers around abandonment [4:00]
- Owning your fear [6:00]
- Dealing with self-worth issues [8:00]
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | So, All right, welcome to the Smart Couple Podcast, Ask Me Anything episode. |
| 0:25.0 | I got a good one here and I'm psyched to read it to you and see if I can respond here. There's something helpful, okay, about this one. This is a common one that many people struggle with. |
| 0:40.7 | So whatever you're facing today, I just wanted to say this, whatever you're facing today, you got it, you got this. |
| 0:48.0 | Okay, feel free to fall down and have a good cry, some kind of meltdown, and it's okay, whatever you're going through is okay. |
| 0:58.8 | And if you stay with it and don't dwell on it and go into your head about it, |
| 1:06.0 | but keep digging deeper into the felt experience, |
| 1:10.0 | you'll come out stronger on the other side. |
| 1:19.3 | And I have the view that whatever we're facing is ours to face and it's because we can handle it. |
| 1:21.9 | I know it's sometimes it feels like we can't but yeah. |
| 1:27.2 | So try that on. Okay. Now this question is from Elias. |
| 1:36.0 | Elias. |
| 1:37.0 | So Elias basically says, I keep running away |
| 1:41.0 | from relationships with the opposite sex when they start to get close or use the L word, |
| 1:47.4 | basically because I think I'm not good enough for them or that they'd end up leaving me. |
| 1:52.3 | Anyone relate to this one? |
| 1:54.6 | I also find it difficult to initiate talks with people. |
| 1:56.7 | What can I do? |
| 1:58.8 | All right, Elias, got some good feedback here for you. |
| 2:03.6 | Okay? |
| 2:04.8 | So first of all, this is outstanding |
| 2:07.1 | that you've identified that this is one of your issues. |
| 2:11.1 | I keep running away from relationships because basically I'm scared to get close. |
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