SC 141 - No Sex. What Do I Do?

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2017

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

QUESTION:
Going into my 10th month of a relationship. 2 week break up (his initiation), came back back asking to work it out, showing up strong, committed and communicative. There is only one problem..no sex. He got distant before the break up (last few weeks)...and I asked about it then. He said it was a "him" thing. I realize we need a conversation....but before I do..I need objective insight.
He does not touch me in any sexual ways. He holds my hand...and snuggles with me at night, even in his sleep.
I am fairly attractive...so don't chalk it up to that. But...this feels so bad and awkward. Has anyone else had this?
He has never been aggressive or overly sexual with me, but now it is non existent. I feel like this is an NNN but I do not want to leave a relationship over sex....but...have considered.
Any suggestions or thoughts?

SHOWNOTES

Can you be in long-term, fulfilling relationship without sex? [4:00]
How can having kids change your sex-life for the better? [5:00]
Why some couples choose a sex-less marriage [6:00]
The most common reason couples don't have sex [8:00]

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0:00.0	So, What's up guys? Jason Gatis here back with another episode of the
0:23.2	relationship school's Smart Couple podcast coming at you here from Boulder, Colorado.
0:31.2	What's up?
0:33.0	Episode number 141.
0:35.0	These are often shorter episodes every other week where we dive into a question, usually from a listener, like you. So if you want to ask me a question, please email us at
0:49.2	info at jason-Gattis.com and put podcast question in the subject line.
0:55.0	All right, I would love to get your questions. I love answering questions.
1:00.0	Live in person on Facebook live or just here reading with you right now.
1:08.0	It means a lot to me that you would ask a question and think that there was some way I could serve you so I like to
1:13.4	show up and try to serve. All right? Now as always these are I have I don't have all the
1:19.6	information right I always give myself permission to look I'm gonna to take my best stab at it given the little info I have and use it as a teaching topic for the rest of my students and listeners. Okay? So that's how we do it.
1:35.3	And often, it's nice to get your question answered, right?
1:39.4	It's like, give me a quick hit, maybe a little course correction, a little tweak, and these can be hugely, hugely helpful.
1:48.0	I know with my own mentors in my life, man, it is essential to be able to ask questions and get an answer.
1:54.0	So please don't hesitate to reach out.
1:57.0	And know that of course it's limited given what we could do if you were actually
2:01.0	studying with me on a regular basis you would probably
2:04.2	start to change some of your habits and patterns forever and that's probably going to go a long
2:09.5	way.
2:11.2	So perhaps do both? Yeah, something like that.
2:15.0	All right.
2:18.0	And remember, we're still enrolling in the relationship school,
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