SC 116 - The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships - Stephen W. Porges

Relationship School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 19 April 2017

⏱️ 68 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever wondered why you struggle to learn something new when you are stressed? Do you wonder why you or your partner are so damn sensitive? Well, there's a scientific reason for all of this and in this week's episode, I interview the man who developed the polyvagal theory. He's a real pioneer and someone who cares a lot about you feeling safe, in life, and in your relationships. Stephen Porgess is about to give you a big download on why you might not feel safe and what you can do about it. Bottom line? We cover the neuroscience of safe relationships and how to create them.

SHOWNOTES

Why we need relationships to keep our nervous systems calm [16:00]
How neuroscience understands ‘intimacy’ [21:00]
Marriage before, during and after kids [25:00]
What to do next time you feel yourself triggered and activated [29:00]
How safety and creativity are linked [32:00]
Using your tone of voice to facilitate more safety in your interactions [43:00]
The surprising truth about our happiest childhood memories [55:00]
Why you should never work anything out over the phone [57:00]

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0:00.0	we need to develop a better or a more developed sense of self-compassion for ourselves, a sense of
0:07.2	respect for our body and a love for who we are, as opposed to a distaste for what we're not. So, Hello and welcome back to the relationship schools Smart Couple
0:39.2	Podcast episode 116 I'm your host Jason Gatis and boy do we have a juicy interview today
0:50.3	first I like to set context as you should when you're going to talk about something difficult with your partner.
0:58.0	Hey honey, can we talk about something difficult?
1:00.0	Do you have a few minutes?
1:02.0	Good, that's setting context.
1:03.0	We teach that in the relationship school.
1:06.0	So let me set some context first about why we do this here at the smart couple,
1:10.1	why we talk about what we talk about. Now as you know we are into personal development
1:16.5	and personal growth, spiritual development, and we talk all about long-term partnership.
1:22.8	This is not a program on how to get laid
1:26.2	or how to feel good in a relationship.
1:30.2	This is a podcast about how to win in a relationship over time.
1:36.2	And winning here means you and another human being
1:40.4	that you partner with, you know how to rock your lives out together through all of
1:47.6	the ups and downs, through the challenges, the traumas, the triumphs, the financial breakdowns, the fighting, the lack of sex, the awkward sex, the challenging
1:59.4	conversations, the family drama, all of it. How do you win through that? How do you keep kicking
2:07.4	ass? How do you have your back and your partner's back? How do you listen in a way that has your partner
2:15.7	feel understood? How do you speak truth and be there for your partner without
2:20.9	compromising your integrity.
2:23.0	Those are the kinds of things we talk about here
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