Savage Lovecast Episode 985

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

A man in a poly triad has a girlfriend. His girlfriend has a boyfriend, and they all live together, share a dog, and plan to have kids. The caller and the other guy will be at a wedding full of normies who don't know the nature of their relationship. Should he just say they're a gay couple? Or explain the whole poly thing? He can't eat gluten. His boyfriend eats a lot of gluten. Can he eat his boyfriend's come? On the Magnum, we are delighted to welcome back Gianmarco Soresi to the show. The stand-up comedian, shares tales of being a straight man in theater camp as a youth, and a straight man at Fire Island as an adult. He and Dan talk about how to be both a dom AND and a power bottom. And, here's a mind hack for gay actors who have to kiss a lady: pretend she is a watermelon. A man discovered his kinky side with his then-girlfriend. Now that they are broken up, he is sure to see her with her new boyfriend, a pillar in kink scene of their town. How can he learn to go to the munches with his head held high? This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world’s leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That’s Erika Lust with a K! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. Fearlessly plumbing the depths of anal sex, fighting against the forces of jealousy, a champion for body positivity, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has had a LOT to say, lo these many years. If only they would listen.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.6	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.3	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.0	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:27.1	Hey, everybody, there's really nothing I can add to the blizzard of takes about the events of the last week.
0:34.1	But I did want to share this.
0:36.3	During the marriage equality debate, some on my side,
0:39.0	maybe even me once or twice, noted that younger people were much more supportive of marriage
0:43.8	equality than older people. So when we thought the fight was going to be a long one, we would
0:49.1	joke that time was on our side. The people who hated us and opposed marriage equality would die off and dot, dot, dot.
0:58.8	Some right wingers at the time seized on those jokes, those morbid jokes, and accused us, accused gay people, advocates for marriage equality, of wanting our opponents to die, even of wanting to kill our opponents. My answer then
1:13.3	and my answer now remains the same. I don't want anyone to die. What I wanted was for our opponents
1:21.5	to live long enough to come around, to live long enough to see one of their children or grandchildren
1:27.2	come out of the closet.
1:28.3	I didn't want to see people who opposed gay marriage in their graves.
1:32.3	I wanted to see them dancing at their gay son's wedding.
1:36.3	I wanted them to come around like Rob Portman did.
1:39.3	He used to be a conservative Republican senator from Idaho.
1:42.3	While he was still in the Senate,
1:44.5	he came out in support of gay marriage. This was in 2013 when his son came out to him as gay.
1:50.4	I want them to come around now, like Cyrus Javadi, currently a state rep in Oregon, who switched
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