Savage Lovecast Episode 978

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 29 July 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

While tidying up after some Airbnb guests, a gay man discovered a vibrator left under the pillow. Should he message the couple and offer to send it back, or would that be too embarrassing? One year ago, a woman called the show about her boyfriend, and Dan advised her to break up with him. But they are still together today, and the woman wonders if she should tell her boyfriend about the episode. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Melissa Febos- bestselling author of "The Dry Season: A Memoir of Pleasure in a Year Without Sex." Febos pressed pause on her promiscuous life and abstained from sex for a year. She and Dan talk about the ways our sexuality defines us, and how we broadcast our desire. A trans man is in love with his girlfriend. The sex is good but not great, because the caller can't bear to indulge his kinky side with his beloved. How can he get out of his head and get nasty with her? [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now, get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From anal sex to asexuality, weddings to webcamming and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.6	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.3	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.0	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.6	Gotta say, this story did not surprise me.
0:31.2	Oklahoma State Superintendent of Public Instruction, Ryan Walters is a right-wing conservative
0:36.3	Christian nationalist, which is many syllables for
0:38.8	fascist who worships Donald Trump. He's condemned woke teachers. He ordered daily Christian prayers
0:44.3	to be broadcast over PA systems and public schools in violation of the Establishment Clause of the U.S.
0:48.7	Constitution. And on his orders, every public school in Oklahoma had to put a Bible in every classroom in Oklahoma,
0:56.2	but not just any Bible. There was a list of requirements for the Bible schools could purchase with public money,
1:02.5	and only one edition of the Bible currently for sale met the criteria and what a coincidence. It was the Bible Donald Trump is selling.
1:12.6	Walters has also attacked LGBT student organizations and gone after trans kids because, of course,
1:17.2	he has. And he's waged a very public battle against porn. He thinks porn is very bad, very vocal
1:24.4	about the evils of pornography. So I was unsurprised this week to learn
1:29.9	Walters got caught streaming porn at work in his office from one of his state issued
1:35.9	devices allegedly onto the state-owned TV on the wall of his office. And not during a lunch break
1:42.0	during an executive session of the Oklahoma State Board
1:44.7	of Education with other members of the Board of Education in the room. So the porn was seen by all
1:51.1	these other members of the board who are Republicans. What kind of porn does Walters like, as it turns
1:55.8	out? I'm going to let one member of the board describe what she saw, quoted in a report at non-doc,
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