Savage Lovecast Episode 971

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 10 June 2025

⏱️ 57 minutes

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Summary

When she was in high school, she surprised herself and delighted her boyfriend by squirting all over his face. But the incident alarmed her enough to set off a neurotic need to pee before every sexual encounter. How can she get out of her head about it, and allow for spontaneity in her current, awesome sex life? A woman is in an in a polyamorous, fantastic, committed relationship full of compersion. Sounds great right? The problem? When they get "activated" he tells her he needs to be with someone who is more intellectually aligned with him. Because you see, he has a Phd in engineering, and she has a mere bachelor in fine arts. When he says things like this, is it just an "avoidant deactivation tactic?" Let's move on. We are so excited about our guest this week! Nico Carney is a Brooklyn based comedian whose stand-up covers his experiences as a trans man from the South. He and Dan talk about how using humor works so much better than scolding to bring people in to understanding of trans experiences. They talk about genital preferences, and the benefits of interrogating your desires. And, FYI, after coming out in college, Nico still bagged hot chicks. Not a problem. A little is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. And, do you have problems? Serious ones? This gal's problem is that her boyfriend loses her lighter sometimes. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Liberator: makers of pillows, shapes and furniture for new exciting sex. Go to Liberator.com/Savage or type “Savage” into the search bar for private VIP access to deals that are too good to announce on this podcast! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, animal lover, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From squirting, to sexting, kissing to kink and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since you were a little, bitty baby.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young and...
0:08.0	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.4	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.1	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.5	Anyone else remember Ross Rabiliotti?
0:29.3	Rabaliati won the gold medal at the 1998 Winter Olympics in Japan and the men's giant snowboard slalom.
0:37.1	1998 was the first Olympic Games to include snowboarding.
0:40.7	A sport, the International Olympic Committee, added to the games to attract a younger demo.
0:45.7	Two days after Rabali Adi won the gold, the first gold medal ever awarded to a snowboarder,
0:51.7	the International Olympic Committee stripped him of his medal and marched him out
0:55.8	of the Olympic Village because he failed a drug test. The IOC did not find a performance-enhancing
1:01.9	drug in Ross's system. What they found was arguably a performance de-hancing drug, cannabis.
1:09.6	So, this 26-year-old snowboarder in 1998, like most people his age at the
1:16.1	time, he liked to smoke a little pot. It was huge news, international news. I covered it at the time.
1:23.6	And by covered it, I mean, I got high and wrote a few blog posts about it, pointing out how
1:27.9	absurd it was for the Olympic Committee to ding someone for using a drug that literally slows you down
1:33.7	and might actually hand your competitors an advantage. But more importantly, that by stripping
1:38.8	Rubaliati of his medal, the IOC risked alienating the very demo the IOC hoped to attract to the Olympics
1:46.2	by adding snowboarding to the games in the first place, young people.
1:51.1	Rabaliati's story has a happy ending, sort of.
1:54.9	Rabaliati appealed the decision two days later.
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