Savage Lovecast Episode 970

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality, Relationships

4.7 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 3 June 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Summary

A married woman in a poly relationship is planning to visit a boyfriend who lives in a different city for a month. But since they made these plans, she started seeing yet another man. Should she tell the guy she plans to visit about the new guy? Should she do it before the trip so he can pull the rip cord if he needs to? Can you peg your dom? She is a switch, so she knows both sides of the dom/sub dynamic. Her dom wants her to peg him, but she worries she'll slip into dom mode. Dan coaches her on how to stay submissive in her head. Our guest this week is Jeremy Alder. The former fundamentalist Christian pastor made a U-turn and became a comedian instead. Their loss is our gain- Alder is dryly funny, sweet and bold in the face unkind, hypocritical Christianity. He and Dan talk about the disaster of homeschooling, buying guns for loved ones, and having a slutty phase after leaving the church. And, a gay man has been getting together with a guy for 10 years in a casual, friends-with-benefits style arrangement. Nobody in his life knows about this relationship. But after 10 years, the guy is suddenly not responding to any of the caller's texts. Is this a cruel, cowardly break-up? Or much worse? [email protected]. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Betterhelp.com: Making professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient – so anyone who struggles with life’s challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere. For 10% your first month, go to Betterhelp.com/savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, psychic cartographer, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From rosebudding, to watersports, hankie codes to harnesses and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity for a long, long time.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.6	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.4	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:18.0	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.6	Hey, everybody, as you can probably tell from the sound of my voice, I am sick. Here's what happened.
0:35.2	I took a bus to a train, to an airport, and then got on an airplane and flew to another airport where I got on yet another airplane and flew to yet another airport where I got on a train to a bus that got me home and somewhere along that line, that long line, somewhere on one of those planes or trains or buses
0:58.4	or in one of those airports or train stations, I managed to contract the new COVID variant
1:04.7	that's going around.
1:06.8	So to the small number of people out there, I saw in those airports and on those planes and in those
1:12.4	trains and on those train stations wearing masks, you were right to be wearing masks.
1:18.9	And the rest of us, myself included, who were not wearing masks, we were wrong.
1:24.6	We luckily recorded most of this show before I got sick, which means you're not
1:28.6	going to have to listen to me sounding like Bobby Kennedy for the next hour and change after we
1:34.3	get through the intro. This is our first show in Pride Month, 2025, and it feels like in
1:42.9	addition to everything the Trumpists have managed to destroy. They've
1:46.6	also managed to do something some of us thought was impossible. They have managed to decringe pride.
1:54.1	It feels like this pride month is an important one. This is going to be a great and necessary pride month. We're going to need
2:03.5	people out there in the streets. It feels like we're going to have some great pride parties and
2:09.0	great pride protests, some great pride parades and great pride marches. And I am here for it. So much so that I'm coming out with some pride merch,
2:21.7	which is not a thing we've ever done before around here, but this year we're making an
2:26.4	exception because someone here at Savage Love, Inc., someone at headquarters asked me what I
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