Savage Lovecast Episode 880

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 5 September 2023

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

We open the show with two questions from people who think they are aromantic. One of them is a woman with two sweet boyfriends, but worries she’s not giving each of them what they deserve. The other is a gay man who has never felt the jolt and tingle of new love. Will he ever be swept off his feet? Our caller is starting a female-only book club reading works by, for and about women. A male friend of hers offered to be their naked servant, making drinks and offering snacks to the clothed attendees. The caller is delighted to make this happen, but there’s a hitch… On the Magnum, we suspect that some of you might have Relationship OCD. Dan interviews Sheva Rajaee who literally wrote the book about it. They talk about how we put irrational expectations on relationships (the myth of “The One” for example ) and how anxiety can govern our romantic lives rather than good ole intuition. And, a man has a big, big crush on his co-worker. She is crushing right back. However! She is married with 4 little kids. Their industry is high-pressure, unique and they work closely together. They haven’t consummated their attraction for each other yet. But for how long can he live in limbo? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace- online therapy that makes it easy to get extra mental health support. For $80 off your first month, go to Talkspace.com and use the offer code Savage. This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast at savage.love.
0:04.6	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:14.1	while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:21.6	The Body Count discourse, the Burning Man discourse, which I go with, Body Count, Burning
0:29.0	Man, Body Count, Burning Man. I'm going to go with Burning Man. I've been Burning Man adjacent
0:36.6	for a long time. You can't know as many Polly people as I do.
0:40.5	You can't live in a place like Seattle with all of his techies. You can't know as many artists as I do
0:45.0	without hearing about Burning Man. And then when it comes out, as it inevitably does, that you
0:51.7	personally, me, have never been to Burning Man.
0:55.0	You will hear.
0:59.0	You will be told that you want to go to Burning Man.
1:02.1	My response, you don't know me.
1:04.0	You don't know what I want.
1:08.5	You may know me well enough for us to be having a conversation about Burning Man.
1:11.2	And people who go to Burning Man have a reputation,
1:16.1	deservedly so. In some cases, we're not being able to converse about literally anything else.
1:22.2	But if you knew me better, you would know that Burning Man is not for me. I feel about Burning Man the same way I feel about skydiving or cunnelingus. I've seen the video. I've heard people rave about it.
1:29.7	Not for me. Burning Man, if you haven't heard of it, is a big annual arts festival slash dance
1:35.9	party slash orgies slash drug fuel dance orgy party in the desert, in Nevada, in late summer.
1:42.6	They build this huge man that they set on fire on the last night.
1:46.9	People come from all over the place in RVs and campers and cars.
1:51.0	And a self-governing city or 70 or 80,000 people basically appears in the desert overnight.
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