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This is The Savage Lovecast, and I am your host, Dan Savage, author of the internationally syndicated sex advice column, Savage Love.

And this, of course, as I like to say, is the once a week outlawed version of my sex advice column.

The phone number here at 206, 201, 2720.

If you want to call us and record a question for a future podcast, right now we're going to get to some of the questions that folks have already recorded for me.

Here we go.

Oh, Dan, I have a dose of lesbian polydrama that I need some advice on.

Last summer, after consent from my best friend, her wife and I started seeing one another.

Very quickly, we realized that we were in love and that our relationship was more than just a fuck.

We hoped to negotiate some poly stuff like we could see each other two weekends a month.

But then my best friend decided she no longer wanted her wife to see me.

At that point, we were in deep emotionally, and when push came to shove, their marriage ended.

There were other issues between them, such as trust and some BDSM negotiated stuff,

but my relationship with the wife was definitely a big factor.

Needless to say, my friend and I are no longer friends.

Her now former wife and I have been together ever since and are still incredibly in love.

Things are really amazingly good, and I have never been happier.

I'm sorry that my ex-best friend got hurt, but at the same time,

I don't really regret it because I can't imagine my life without my partner.

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