Savage Love Episode 620

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 11 September 2018

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

A young woman's boyfriend regularly gets her sexually aroused and then rolls over and goes to sleep without finishing the job. And then they fight. Why would he do this? A young gay man doesn't understand why his fuckbuddy only texts him when he wants to...well, fuck. On the Magnum: If you are a gay man, and want to give blood, you're out of luck. Blood centers do not accept blood donations from gay men. Is this based on science or stigma? It's a little of both, as it turns out in this discussion with Dr. Nick Cuneo, a physician at Harvard who has written about the subject. And, remember that scene in Purple Rain where a woman gets thrown into a dumpster? We are very sad to report that it happens in real life too. 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to . Thanks to Audible for supporting the Savage Lovecast. For a free audiobook with a 30-day free trial, go to or text savage to 500-500. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase

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0:00.0	You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast, www.com.
0:06.5	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:15.9	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:24.9	There's a lot going on, so I'm going to hit a few points at the top of this week's show.
0:29.2	First up, I am on Team Serena.
0:32.3	Batting second or bat-shitting second.
0:35.0	Some of my fellow queers are taking to the internet, the internet bringing
0:39.1	out the best in all of us since 1990. Some of my fellow queers are taking to the internet to angrily
0:44.5	call out straight people, aka cis-het people, who use the term partner in reference to their
0:52.0	spouses. Can we not with this? Can we just fucking not? I'm old enough to
0:58.0	remember when straight people used to tell gays and lesbians that we couldn't use husband and wife.
1:03.0	They also used to tell us that whatever it was we felt for each other, we were not allowed
1:07.5	to use the word love to describe it. One of the very first books I read about sex
1:11.6	when I was a teenager, everything you ever wanted to know about sex, but were afraid to ask,
1:16.1	said that gay men were incapable of love and that a gay relationship was a sick codependency,
1:22.0	a shared delusion, but not love, never love. Love only existed in opposite sex relationships, never in same-sex relationships.
1:31.3	It was bullshit when they tried to tell us what words we weren't allowed to use
1:35.8	when we spoke of the most important people in our lives.
1:38.3	And it was ineffective bullshit.
1:40.2	We called it love over their objections.
1:44.1	And you know what?
1:45.1	Telling straight people what words they can't use is also bullshit.
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