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Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 491

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 22 March 2016

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

A straight man has begun a relationship with a transwoman. To put his question bluntly, is he obligated to suck her dick? How on earth is a nice gay man supposed to deal with his father when dad has sworn to vote for Donald Trump? A woman is horrified to see boudoir paintings of her boyfriend’s ex staring at her from the walls. Does she have the right to ask him to take them down? On the Magnum, a woman gets turned on when she experiences anxiety. She even had a couple orgasms in the airport when she missed her flight. Dr. Debby Herbenick chats with Dan about this phenomenon and how to harness such a dark power. 206-302-2064 This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by : luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to  and enter Savage. This episode is also brought to you by .  Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan" when you check out. Today’s episode is also brought to you by , the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .

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0:00.0

You're listening to the micro version of the Savage Lovecast, www.com.

0:06.5

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:16.0

while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.

0:25.8

Elizabeth Nolan Brown, writing at reason.com, sounded the alarm on March 7th, letting us know that a federal court, a federal judge, had ruled that Americans do not have necessarily a constitutional right to engage in consensual BDSM activities because quoting from the decision, sexual activity that involves binding and gagging or the use of physical force such as spanking or choking poses certain inherent risks to personal safety.

0:52.6

Thus, Brown rights officials could constitutionally ban or

0:55.2

regulate such activity in the interest of, quote, the protection of vulnerable persons. The court held.

1:01.9

This freaked a lot of people out. Myself included, I quoted Elizabeth Nolan Brown, who's writing

1:07.6

I like very much, in Savage Love last week and observed that in 2003,

1:12.5

the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that Americans have a constitutional right to get their asses fucked,

1:17.0

but one day soon we may be asking the Supreme Court to rule whether Americans have a constitutional

1:21.0

right to get their asses spanked. The judge's reasoning is pretty crazy when you consider all

1:25.9

the other things that Americans do that have built in health risks.

1:30.9

Also for vulnerable persons.

1:32.8

You put a vulnerable person on a snowboard and you send them down a mountain that they're not ready for or skilled enough to ride.

1:38.8

They're going to slam into a tree and die.

1:41.3

Pregnancy comes bundled with serious and significant health risks for the person who

1:46.5

happens to be pregnant. And yet, we believe people have a constitutional right basically to get

1:52.0

pregnant if they wish to get pregnant. And of course, the idea that people are somehow infinitely more

1:57.7

vulnerable if you add a spanking to sex is a little crazy. People can be exploited,

2:02.9

vulnerable people can be taken advantage of and are taken advantage of every day in sexual

2:07.4

circumstances and situations that are perfectly vanilla. It is possible to have exploitative,

2:13.5

abusive sex in the missionary position with adult opposite sex partners who happen to be

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