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We've gotten a couple of calls in the last week or so asking why I haven't discussed or

addressed Rolling Stone, Jackie, the UVA scandal, what's been going down.

And the fact of the matter is, it's just a really difficult thing to talk about.

And I'm not sure that me sitting here alone in this room with the Texas of at-risk youth

and my malprivilege and my penis and my not being at risk for this kind of victimization,

I was really the right person to talk about it.

And I was just sitting back and listening.

I was reading, reading a lot of other people talking about it, reading Amanda Hess, reading

Lyndie West, reading Roxanne Gay, reading Rolling Stone, reading Washington Post, reading Eric Wimple,

reading Emily Ophy, just taking it in and not really jumping in myself. Sometimes I don't feel like I have to jump into every pool and pee. Anyway, I've been thinking a little bit more about it, and I'm going to talk about it, but I'm going to say that we're going to talk about this after the beginning of the year. I'm going to put one thing out there today, but after the beginning of the year, next week is our Christmas show that we taped in Seattle last week. And so I'm going to say something briefly that I want to get off my chest right now. And the next year, first show of the year, hopefully we will have a couple of guests in to talk about what this all means, the UVA thing. Rape, false reports of rape, which are anomalies, all of this. But I do have to get this off my chest. And this is

going to seem like an irrelevant tangent, but I will, it'll make sense in a minute. I came out in

1980-ish, 1981. I came out right before HIV-Aid slammed in the gay community. And, you know,

I was there for the worst of it. I was there with my eyes open.

And there was a time.

And a lot of people don't, you know, people talk about HIV AIDS stigma now, the stigma or shame of being HIV positive now.

And we've talked about that a lot on the show.

We get calls from guys who are HIV positive who feel sort of burdened by the shame and the

stigma of it.

And we get calls from people who are negative, who are clearly phobic about HIV and what it is now, what it means to have it now, and the way they reject or react to partners who have HIV, which can be irrational and out of all proportion to their risks of acquiring HIV in any sort of sexual interaction these days with somebody

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