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Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 309

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 25 September 2012

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Ah, the sex toy double standard. He doesn't mind her vibrator, but she feels threatened by his Fleshlight.   Is it reasonable to be in favor of gay rights but be against gay marriage for religious reasons?   Open marriage: Is it bad for kids? Is there a way to make it work in the long run?   Also, Dan interviews Salon's sex and relationships writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the tendency in kinky circles to belittle and disdain vanilla folk.     Call us, won't you? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at    Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.   Check out Tracy's article ""

Transcript

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0:00.0

You're listening to a Stranger podcast, www.com.

0:05.8

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:13.8

while there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.

0:24.6

You know the type.

0:26.6

I'll give an example of this type.

0:28.5

I'll give the bisexual example of this type.

0:31.0

You meet somebody, you get to that point where you're, you know, disclosing or you're

0:34.9

sexual orientation.

0:35.6

I have a boyfriend.

0:36.8

And it comes up sexual orientation.

0:39.3

And this by person isn't content to say that they are by. What they say is, I fall in love with

0:44.5

people, not genitals, which means that your partner is a dick. Their partner is a person.

0:56.5

Your partner, you just fall in love with a penis,

1:02.7

but they fell in love with a person. It's not that they're by, it's that they're walking on a higher spiritual plane than you are, right? And it's not just bisexual people who do this. Gay people do it.

1:09.2

That being gay isn't just, you know, not being straight or, you know,

1:13.6

liking people of the same sex. It's better than being straight. Straight people don't know what

1:17.8

they're missing. The kind of gay person who thinks everyone is either secretly gay or needs to be gay or

1:22.6

would be better if they were gay. Those gay people annoy me too. And there's the poly iteration of these people, too.

1:29.8

It's not enough that they are happy having multiple partners, that this relationship

1:33.1

model works for them and the persons in their lives.

1:37.5

It's that you're doing it wrong, the monogamous out there.

1:41.0

There's something wrong with you, that they have so much abundant love, whereas you have this sort of withered small one at a time love, right? They can't just let you be monogamous if it makes you happy in exchange for you letting them be Polly. If that's what makes them happy, they have to be doing it better.

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