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while there's nothing you can't ask on the savage lovecasts. Before we give to this show, a lot of people are writing, sending emails, calling me in the last few days to ask me what I think of the verdict in the Rutgers case, the verdict that came down last Friday, where Darren Ravi was found guilty, basically on all charges, including bias crimes, for his actions that some people say led to or contributed to or preceded Tyler Clemente's suicide.

Tyler Clemente was the 18-year-old Rutgers student who threw himself

off the George Washington Bridge in September of 2010 shortly after Terry and I started the

It Gets Better Project. And in the wake of his private sexual encounter with another person

being streamed over the internet by his roommate, Robbie.

And be wondering what I think.

And I've kind of kept my counsel and kept my mouth shut in the run-up to the verdict

because I didn't want it to seem like the It Gets Better Project was weighing in or

bang for blood or wanting to change anyone's

minds or change anyone's opinions. But I believe, and as I wrote shortly after Tyler Clemente's

suicide and after Ravi and his friend, Molly Way, were arrested, that it seemed to me to be an unseemly rush to pin all

responsibility and all blame for Tyler Clemente's suicide on these two idiotic teenagers who did

something foolish and cruel but could not have known the consequences of their actions. And to me, it seemed like,

and still does, post-verdict, seems like a massive attempt to shift all blame onto the shoulders

of this one foolish teenager, 18 years old, fresh out of high school, did something stupid. And I can't

imagine, I don't believe that just that single action caused, prompted Tyler Clemente to take

his life. There can be a trigger. Maybe it was a trigger, But other people, institutions, individuals, churches, set Tyler Clemente up. Tyler Clemente was failed by his faith, failed by teachers, failed by institutions, may have been bullied all his life,

and this was the last straw. And I just think that it's unfortunate, that society feels it must

sacrifice this other young person's life on an altar of retribution, really in a sense to wash itself clean of the sins, of the failures that contributed, that many people in institutions contributed to setting Tyler Clemente up like this.

That's really all I want to say.

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