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Hey, everybody, welcome to the Savage Love Podcast. I'm Dan Savage, and let me tell you what I want for a change.

Last week's podcast, I was a little hungover, a lot of my mind. All the questions were straight

from straight people about straight sex. And I have my limits. I like straight sex as much

as an ex-gay person, which means not very much at all. And this uh, this week just to, for a lovely little change of

pace, we're going to totally fag out, as they say on ESPN. And deal only with, uh, faggy questions

about faggy things like faggy uncles and faggy butt sex and faggy douching and

faggy fear of incontinence and, uh, all sorts of faggy, faggy shit.

So here we go.

Hi, Dan.

I'm a 25-year-old gay male who's in a year-long relationship where my partner and I have been having great sex.

However, we really haven't explored anything anal,

you know, save for fingering and rimming sessions. We really haven't had anything in terms of

penetration. I want to jump in right there. I'm going to interrupt your question. Not because I

want to give you any advice at this point, but I want to draw the attention of the heterosexual listeners out there, the less highly evolved

heterosexual listeners. I assume there's some heterosexual listeners who are down with what I'm

about to say, as the kids used to say a few years ago. You said that you've been having great

sex with your new boyfriend. Great great sex you said it three or four

times great sex great sex and then you said and i wrote it down we haven't really been doing

anything in terms of penetration but you've been having great sex a lot of straight people have this

hang up that that if there isn't penetration if there isn't vaginal and or intercourse, there's no sex happening. It's not really sex. It's some sort of weird consolation prize. I only got a hand job or we only did a little oral, but we didn't really have sex. I just want to point out that it's possible to have as these two boys are having. And I'd like to see some video, actually. It's possible to have great sex without penetration.

It's particularly good lesson for young people who want to be sexually active

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